Exposing the Lies

Cynthia Miller, the Counselor & Life Coach of Heart of Hope, speaks with passion about the work of exposing the lies that women believe and replacing those lies with truth.  Using a beautiful illustration of coal and diamonds, she gives practical methods that can be used within the work to allow the Word of God to bring about transformation in the lives of the women we serve.

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The L.O.V.E. Approach for Everyone

Cindi Boston-Bilotta interviews Dr. Peggy Hartshorn about her latest book, The L.O.V.E. Approach.

In 1994, Dr. Hartshorn developed The L.O.V.E. Approach manual to explain how Christ-centered pregnancy help center volunteers can build relationships with women facing difficult pregnancies and help them resolve issues and problems in a life-affirming way. It has been in continuous use around the world, taught by Heartbeat International since then (person to person and now on-line).

It was originally inspired by the lessons she learned from painful experience, the hard way, as a young wife, mother, and passionate Christian volunteer, almost 50 years ago.

In this narrative version of the L.O.V.E. Approach, she offers the four steps to you and the larger Christian community in the expectation that you will also find them powerful in your own relationships and ministries.

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Client Marketing – Expanding Your Reach

Bri Laycock, the Director of Ministry Solutions, reflects on how to better reach potential residents in this informative episode of Pregnancy Help Podcast. Learn about using Google analytics to see who your website is attracting and how using phrases may help improve your search results for clients.  Bri also shares about the important role that the “live chat” function has for Option Line and invites homes to think about how it might be used for outreach. This is a power-packed session with lots of insights on taking your website-based outreach to the next level!

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Encouragement in Uncertain Times

Join us as Sue Baumgarten (Lifehouse of Houston) and Emily Prins (Expect Hope) reflect on encouragement, especially during times of challenge and crisis.  This uplifting podcast acknowledges the challenge of uncertainty while inviting leaders to exercise obedience, surrender, and rest as they lead their teams.

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On-going Options Counseling

Kesha Franklin of Lifeline Village discusses how options counseling about parenting and adoption is an on-going part of their maternity home program. Starting from the principle that adoption is a Biblically sound and loving idea, this podcast features thoughts on how to include the adoption conversation into your program.

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An Insider’s Perspective of Housing Ministry

Michele Marsh of LifeHouse Maternity Home provides an in-depth overview of their six-year-old program housing pregnant women in need. This podcast covers various topics including accreditation, the decision to have a 2nd home, working with women with addiction histories, and advice for start-ups.

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The Power of Positive Reinforcement

This podcast, featuring Sarah Sutay of The Lighthouse Station, discusses ways to wake up the desire for “more.” Sarah highlights the importance of identifying values and strengths in the moms and recognizing that they are the experts in their own life. Using what they have experienced working in past decisions, Sarah illustrates the power of reinforcement, especially of the positive, to help the moms in meeting their goals.

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How Effective Mentoring Programs Change Lives

Lauren Mauk, the Board President of Mommy’s Haven, goes in-depth with the vision and logistics of their mentoring program. With a spirit of “rigid flexibility,” she shares how they vet and train mentors so as to encourage long-time, impactful relationships.

The vision of the program is “interdependent women” — listen to hear how Mommy’s Haven embodies that vision!

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Starting a Maternity Home

This hope-filled webinar, featuring Emily Prins of Expect Hope offers encouragement to those in the start-up phase of opening a home. Emily shares from her experience of starting a “social service project with eternal consequences” on how to be prepared for the spiritual battle associated with pregnancy help work. She reminds listeners that the work is part of the process of sanctification and offers practical insights from her experience.

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  • https://www.expecthope.org/

Sex Trafficking – The Women Who Escape and Need Shelter

Jeanne Allert operates The Samaritan Women, a residential restorative care program for women who have been exploited by trafficking. The power-packed podcast talks about the intersection points with maternity homes and invites programs to think about creating “safe within” environments, ways to detox from a highly “private universe”, and how to help women reclaim their boundaries.

In this podcast, Jeanne Allert of The Samaritan Women lays out the field of residential options for women coming out of sex trafficking using four ideas.  While the maternity housing world doesn’t have the same language, it has similar concepts.  It is instructive to hear her thoughts on the field of residential care for persons coming out of crisis.

The first point of intervention is emergency care and includes things like emergency rooms, jails, and safe houses. On the continuum of care, these programs focus on the point of rescue or escape as well as the point of apprehension by law enforcement.  Women may or may not be interested in change at this point.

Next are programs that focus on stabilization, generally short-term programs (i.e. 90-days) where the woman may be living with a foot in the world of transformative care and a foot in ongoing connection to the world of her victimization.  Long-term care takes place in restorative care programs, the third type of program.  It is in these programs that Allert describes the focus as asking the question, “What is the new life you are aspiring to have?”  She suggests that clients spend 90% of time on building that new life and 10% of time on dealing with “trauma residue” issues.

In her experience, some of the important lessons of this phase are teaching the residents to have natural relationships and to assert boundaries.  The final stage is graduate care where the emphasis is on ongoing support during social entry and independent living.  During this time, having a supportive and accountable community is a crucial tool.

As of October 2019, there were 103 open residential programs that specialized in victims of trafficking.  These programs accounted for approximately 1000 beds.

“One of the ways that media has done a disservice to us is to create a hyper-reality of danger,” Allert asserts.  She argues that the relational bond that the woman has experienced with her abuser (i.e. as a parent-figure, boyfriend, baby daddy) makes her more at risk of choosing to go back rather than the abuser coming to find the client.  “It’s less about physical security and more about building a belief of being ‘safe within’,” Allert explains.

Rather than outside threats, the client is more of a danger to herself via self-harm, destructive decision making, and other negative behaviors.

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  • https://instituteforsheltercare.org/